Sex, Lies, and Conversation
Deborah Tannen is the author of Sex, Lies, and Conversation. Tannen is the author of many best-selling books. Sex, Lies, and Conversion was written because the chapter in That’s Not What I Meant! was on the difficulties men and women have communicating with one another. Although American men tend to talk more than women in public situations, but talk less at home. This would be a pattern of wreaking havoc with marriage. Andrew Hacker observed the pattern in the late 1970s. Most women, but not only a few of the men gave lack of communication as the reason for their divorce. Divorce rate is 50% in the United States. Tannen research showed that there was complaints from women about their husbands focused not on them. Sex, Lies, and Conversation was based on battles of the sexes, listening to body language, and sounds of silence. Communication is key.
First of all, women and men have different impressions of communication in marriage. American Psychologist reports the results of Eleanor Maccoby own and others research shows that children’s devolvement is most influenced by the social structure of peer interactions. Boys and girls tend to play with children of their own gender and their sex separate groups have different organizational structures and interactive norms. Little girls create and maintain friendships by exchanging secrets. Women regard conversion as the cornerstone of friendship. Some men really do not like listen because of being a listener make them feel one down. When a women tell men that they are not listening and they say they are listening. The men are right. The girls and women faced each other directly and their eyes anchored on each other face. Women and men take in conversation is their topical alignment.
Furthermore, switching topics is a habit that gives women the impression men are not listening. Women expect a stream of listener noise interpret silent attention. Women conversational habits are frustrating to...