My husband’s alcoholism
One of the worst situations I’ve experienced in my life that made me really angry, is my marriage time with my husband. I lived more than 10 years with him and I really loved him although I always spent bad days because he was alcoholic and he never believed it.
My husband didn’t hide anything at first and I thought it is a privilege, for he is honest with me. I was very young and I couldn’t understand what alcoholism means. In the beginning I could forgive him easily but after some years it turned to a real problem.
He got two different tempers and he was not able to deal with subjects. I couldn’t count on his words and I couldn’t prevent his actions, so it made me very angry. When he got angry, he couldn’t control himself too, and he became very dangerous. I got depression but I tried to get help from doctors and psychoanalysts for both of us. Unfortunately he didn’t want to get help from them and it made me mad. I really tried help my husband in order to keep my family but it didn’t work. Although I still loved him but I didn’t feel safety for my children and me, so I decided to leave him. It was a hard decision but I think it was right.
Dr. Rosenthal’s suggestions sound good but I think they don’t work always and for all cases. If you are passing a normal situation, probably you can smooth your body as he says “ Once you recognize what you mad, change the messages you give yourself” (qot.in Jane E. Brody 437). But sometimes this is not a common experience. For example marriage is a big challenge. It is like a complicated misperception that really “fuel anger”. (E. Brody 436). In the other hand when you are challenging such relationships how you can relax your body? It is your life! You are responsible to your children and you must answer them. Do you think the way “finding something funny in the situation and distractions like listening to the radio or to a tape” works?
I believe “ Different triggers provoke different...