I think every characteristic that a Christian counselor must have begins with a strong relationship with Christ. Having an intimate relationship with Christ allows the counselor to be able to assist the client on a supernatural level. Everything we do stems from Christ: "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.”(John 15:5 NIV) Christ is the ultimate mentor, and to succeed in a guidance you must first seek his guidance. Without His intervention, we would not be able to resolve decisions on our own.
The counselor should have unwavering faith in the Lord and not be afraid to call on him at all times. In this world today and with all the problems that we may face it’s important to have a biblical worldview vs. a fleshly worldview. The counselor should be able call on the bible as its guideline and instruction manual. As stated in Caring for People God’s Way; “The foundation of truth is given to us in the Bible-the standard by which everything else is evaluated. (pg 31)” A spiritually mature counselor will also be a good listener and have understanding for their clients. They will be able to show empathy and concern, which I think is important in building a client’s trust.
God has developed in me the characteristics of being a naturally caring person. I am also a good listener, when it comes to my relationship with Christ and in my relationships with others. Lastly, I am trustworthy and put my trust in faith in the Lord.
Clinton Tim, etal (2005); A New Guide for Christian Counseling; Caring for People God’s Way